Approximately three years ago, in a pre-wedding frenzy, I found myself in a tearful state of uncertainty. I was excited to move forward, but afraid of making the wrong decision. After all, how do you really know when it’s “the one?” Was I making a decision based upon what I wanted, or what my mother/sister/BFF/evil bitch alter-ego wanted?
I’m going to go on a little tangent here…
Consumer psychologist Barry Shwartz touches on this exact issue in his insightful work The Paradox of Choice. In it, he reiterates mid-century psychologist Herbert Simon‘s ideas of “maximizing” and “satisficing” in the context of decision-making today. Essentially, a “maximizer” is a person who needs to be sure that the decision he or she is making is the “best” possible decision–even if making that decision is more time-consuming and/or arduous. A “satisficer,” meanwhile, is one who, for lack of a better word, compromises in the decision-making process. However negative this may sound, Schwartz argues that satisficers tend to be happier individuals, not allowing themselves to be overwhelmed by numerous options or opportunities.
Like most people, I’m a bit of both in my day-to-day life. But on this particular issue, with a life-changing event around the corner, I was a woeful, everything-must-be-perfect maximizer.
Before we get ahead of ourselves, I should mention that I am not talking about my charming, debonair stud of a husband. I’m talking about wedding gown shopping, silly! But perhaps you already figured that out from the title of this post–especially if you’ve shopped for a wedding gown in the past few years. You see, I thought shopping for a bridal gown was going to be the most wonderful part of planning my wedding, but after trying on gown after gown in Philadelphia and New York–and falling in love with several too many–I just started going bat-shit crazy. I almost ended up with a Carolina Herrera floral a-line gown that, while stunning and unique, couldn’t have been more different than the Monique Lhuillier “Sunday Rose” that came to my rescue by, well, blowing everything else out of the water.
Below: Photo by Kateryn Silva Photography
While this entry is partially an excuse to show off a couple photos of yours truly in what is undoubtedly the finest garment I will ever own, I’ve also fallen deeply in love with the whole gamut of Ms. Lhuillier’s work since I walked down the aisle and was so excited when she launched her new shoe collection this year. The Spring 2014 collection was unveiled in New York earlier today, but sadly I couldn’t be there in person. Thank goodness for Instagram! The pics they’ve been posting show that the Spring 2014 collection will undoubtedly be the best yet!
Guaranteed to satisfy any maximizer
- Monique Lhuillier Emerald Green collection… (divatrends.wordpress.com)
- Avril Lavigne weds in black Monique Lhuillier (rappler.com)
- Oscar de la Renta Bridal Spring/Summer 2014 | Monique Lhuillier Wedding Dress Collection – Spring 2014 (christinescreatives.com)
- a peek inside: monique lhuillier designer home (arhitekturaplus.wordpress.com)
- Monique Lhuillier 2013 Bridal Collection (stylemepretty.com)